First of all, I am mortified that this “comeback” blog entry is unwarranted of what I really want to blog about — that is, my life and where I am now. However, the fucking VMAs (or should I say The Miley Cyrus Show) has stirred the feelings of so many traditionalists, hypocrites, and worrywarts that I feel subjected to indulge myself in productively ranting about it, with the intention of prying open the close-mindedness of some people. Yeah, I’m probably talking about you. And yeah, we probably both have better things to do, but whatever. Cheap shots deserve cheap shots.
For the record, I am not a fan of Miley. Perhaps I am now, but for the better part of her career I couldn’t give a shit about her if you forced me to. For those who missed Miley’s performance, it would be wise to Google it. If you’re too lazy to, then let me recount it for you. The former Disney superstar essentially wore next to nothing, dry-humped giant Teddy bears, touched herself, gyrated against Robin Thicke’s crotch, and spanked plenty of butts, all the while having her freakishly long tongue out. Oh, and she twerked too. And boy, did she twerk the fuck out of everyone’s minds!
The performance predictably generated a shitload of reaction, mostly criticism that dwelled on how lewd, inappropriate, and immoral Miley was. While it is very convenient to clutch your pearls, roll through the beads of your rosary and judge the whole slutfest from the peering eyes of a Pharisee, I would advise anyone to carefully check yourself, before you wreck… nope, not going there. Anyhoo, I do not intend to give Miley any unmerited credit for what she did, however, I do welcome the dialogue her actions have brought about.
At first glance, this whole fracas comes as a shock to most because Miley is a former child star that now appears to understand her sexuality. “Aaaack! Hannah Montana is pussy-popping on MTV!” This is the kind of shit that makes people lose their minds. But dissecting this free-for-all reveals there is more to this than people’s deluded idea of how one is supposed to grow up. This, to me, is clearly another case double standard materialized. This is the perpetual idea that for a woman to act like a man is completely not acceptable and is indictable by a scarlet letter. Miley’s suggestiveness and sexually charged demeanor could have easily come from a male counterpart and no one would give a shit. Really think about it, if it were a man, this wouldn’t be news. If there’s anything to be disturbed about that performance, it’s probably the lyrics to Robin Thicke’s “Blurred Lines” and how it subtlety glorifies an insistent “yes” to a woman’s “indifference”. I have to ask, why is it so difficult for a woman to show she is sexually autonomous? Regardless of whether or not it’s crass or in good taste, sexuality does come in different forms and we do not get to say who can express theirs and who cannot. Why do most male rappers get a free pass and why is Miley crucified?
The role model argument is an exercise in futility. The world is filled with bad role models. You cannot rid the world of it’s ugly so you can shield the innocent from what the world is really like. Ultimately, parents get full the responsibility on how their children grow up to be. Miley Cyrus did not invent promiscuity. Sex and sexuality have been around since the beginning of mankind, believe it or not. Parents do not have full control of what their kids get exposed to, that is just the reality of life. Unless you want your kid to live a life of seclusion and “pureness”, they will inevitably come across examples, images, and situations that may not agree with the values you want to instill in them. The responsibility to teach them what you think is morally righteous falls on nobody else’s plate but yours. If your children grow up to be less than what you expected them to be, you do not get to fucking blame Miley Cyrus — simple as that.
You probably sense by now how strongly I feel about this. I guess it would be fair to say Christina Aguilera had something to contribute to this. Christina, who lives her message, has come out more than a decade ago wearing ass-less chaps, shaking her thang to Dirrty, and force-feeding her raw sexuality into the consciousness of millions of people. The reaction was much like how a Capitalist Christian would predictably react; by outrage and stone throwing. Why must a woman reserve her sexuality behind closed doors whilst a man can parade it without negative connotations? I have always admired women who take charge and refuse to back down against the pressure of those who insist on putting the idea of what a woman should be inside a small box of behavioral limits.
Our society, women in particular, wouldn’t be where it is now without fearless radicals who dared to champion criticism and question the world’s strict view of what is proper and what is not. There should be no shame in sex! If you believe otherwise then know that you think backwards and should really be ashamed of that, if anything. No one should ever be subjected to concede, let alone apologize for revealing his or her individuality. A woman’s role in the world is not predetermined and exact. You should really be glad that is not the case anymore and that women today can wear pretty much whatever they want, sadly still depending on whatever part of the world they are, but that’s a different discussion altogether. Just because someone has a different viewpoint than you, does not mean they’re wrong. Where is real freedom when a ruling class deems something unsuitable because it defiles their “values”? What about the value to respect a woman’s right to behave the way she chooses to? A woman, or any person who chooses to “be” for that matter, should be looked at with an open mind. Remember that putrid time, long ago when gay men cannot kiss in public without getting vilified? Oh right, that shit still happens, quite often too, might I add. You cannot hinder someone from doing something that’s individually innate because it makes you uncomfortable. If you can’t help it, then go to your corner and be offended. You fight for your values best by living it, not by attacking those that don’t live by yours. Trust me, your disgust deserves a better use of your time and energy. After all, Miley can’t stop, won’t stop, etc. So really, it’s your loss, not hers.